Everything is Workable Resource List
Autism Advocacy Links
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Bk0GbW8xgvTgQlheNG5uw (ask an autistic)
https://www.fysh.org/~zefram/allism/allism_intro.txt
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/ne4pqx/autism-and-eating-disorders-often-go-hand-in-hand
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/02/anorexia-and-autism/463233/
http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2017/02/autism-and-burden-of-social-reciprocity.html
https://juststimming.wordpress.com/2014/12/21/dangerous-assumptions/
http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2018/09/on-aba-they-hate-you-yes-you.html
https://www.autreat.com/dont_mourn.html
http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2018/09/neurodiverse-friendly-workplaces-in.html
https://aeon.co/essays/the-autistic-view-of-the-world-is-not-the-neurotypical-cliche
http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2018/09/neurodiverse-friendly-workplaces-in.html
https://network.autism.org.uk/knowledge/insight-opinion/supporting-trans-and-gender-questioning-autistic-pupils
http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2017/11/under-double-rainbow-autism-and-lgbtqia.html
My autistic friends recommend Life and Love: Positive Strategies for Autistic Adults by Zosia Zaks, The Aspie Girl's Guide to Being Safe with Men by Debi Brown, and the anthology What Every Autistic Girl Wishes Her Parents Knew edited by Emily Paige Ballou, Kristina Thomas, and Sharon daVanport. While not autism-specific, The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability also comes highly recommended. My favorite autism blog, Thinking Person's Guide to Autism, runs frank and fascinating pieces like 'Autism and Orgasm.' Another place to look for useful advice is in presentations by autistic self-advocates like Lindsey Nebeker, Stephen Mark Shore, and Amy Gravino (whose TEDx talk 'Why Autism Is Sexier Than You Think It Is' is on YouTube)."
https://www.thestranger.com/savage-love/2017/12/12/25624700/savage-love
Note: The following is just the first few results from google scholar. There are a plethora of articles on the topic of qigong however, many of the non-academic paper articles use problematic language/framing.
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/2164956118769006
https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/203e/b54095953421de878e8b3b81188a07e3d864.pdf
https://www.hindawi.com/journals/aurt/2015/904585/?viewType=Print&viewClass=Print
Disability
https://medium.com/s/unrulybodies/the-body-that-cant-run-marathons-295d89f2a9a0
https://www.autostraddle.com/when-medicine-doesnt-speak-the-right-language-for-my-body-335777/
The social model of disability says that disability is caused by the way society is organised, rather than by a person’s impairment or difference. It looks at ways of removing barriers that restrict life choices for disabled people. When barriers are removed, disabled people can be independent and equal in society, with choice and control over their own lives. http://www.disabilitynottinghamshire.org.uk/about/social-model-vs-medical-model-of-disability/
http://www.spinabifidasupport.com/medicalsocialmodel.htm
Consent
http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/news/2014/what-does-consent-look-like
https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal
https://hazlitt.net/feature/women-do-what-they-need-do-survive
https://www.autostraddle.com/age-appropriate-sex-education-lgbtq-kids-430389/
https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/06/never-force-child-hug-people/
https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/05/teaching-consent-doesnt-matter/
https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/09/ways-parents-teach-consent-doesnt-matter/
“But what do parents and administrators expect to happen afterward if consent is all children know and are prepared for? We're spending so much time on the conversation of gatekeeping,” Goldfarb continued. “It still sets a sexual dynamic that's adversarial. Everyone wants to keep people safe, but it's still about avoiding danger rather than exploring positive aspects of sexuality.”
Teachings on boundaries, personal autonomy, relationships, and other aspects of sexual health. This attitude reflects a growing movement among sexuality organizations and educators to advocate for comprehensive sex-education programs that begin as early as kindergarten, to provide students with age-appropriate and medically accurate information that acts as a foundation for later lessons on consent.
https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2016/04/when-should-kids-start-learning-about-sex-and-consent/480264/
Scarleteen http://www.scarleteen.com/
Oh Joy Sex Toy https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/new-readers/ (mix of educational comics and product review comics)
Misc.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCqQ9LxzTwM&list=PLJA_jUddXvY62dhVThbeegLPpvQlR4CjF&index=6&t=0s (Why Are You So Angry? Part 5: "The Good Guy")
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCqQ9LxzTwM&list=PLJA_jUddXvY62dhVThbeegLPpvQlR4CjF&index=6&t=0s why is jack mad video series
https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/
https://www.thecut.com/2016/01/how-your-self-identity-predicts-breakup-recovery.html
https://tricycle.org/magazine/no-self-or-true-self/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T6v3DhGhTc Origin of Everything Nuclear Family
https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2018/04/30/japans-rent-a-family-industry
https://medicalhealthhumanities.com/2018/06/10/the-then-and-there-of-transmasculine-pregnancy/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzqEgoIqUzE When Men Wore High Heels
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohwbtkMXJJ0 Why was Pink for Boys and Blue for Girls?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzYLbtsZpAk When DId Marriage Become about Love?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCGyLjBjuGI Monogamy, explained
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCecsVoeJcsXbAra7Sl4mOPw queer kid stuff youtube
List of Books
A Modern Day Guide to Massage for Children by Tina Allen
Covering: The Hidden Assault On Our Civil Rights Kenji Yoshino
Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Integration Issues by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske
Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy Tina Schermer Sellers
Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference and Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society Cordelia Fine
Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life Emily Nagoski
Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism Patrick Califia
Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity
Julia Serano
Brain Storm: The Flaws in the Science of Sex Differences Rebecca M. Jordan-Young
The Trans Generation: How Trans Kids (and Their Parents) are Creating a Gender Revolution Ann Travers
The Black Tides of Heaven and its sequel The Red Threads of Fortune by Jy Yang
(also I'd recommend River of Teeth and its sequel Taste of Marrow by Sarah Gailey)
Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: A Parent's Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy, and Resilience. Peter Levine and Maggie Kline (Note: this books discussion of childhood sexuality/development of sexuality is a bit outdated and only somewhat accurate for a small percentage of individuals in certain family dynamics)
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction. Gabor Mate
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Bessel van der Kolk
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Esther Perel
Magazine
Gender
-“If a society puts half its children into short skirts and warns them not to move in ways that reveal their panties, while putting the other half into jeans and overalls and encouraging them to climb trees, play ball, and participate in other vigorous outdoor games; if later, during adolescence, the children who have been wearing trousers are urged to “eat like growing boys,” while the children in skirts are warned to watch their weight and not get fat; if the half in jeans runs around in sneakers or boots, while the half in skirts totters about on spike heels, then these two groups of people will be biologically as well as socially different. Their muscles will be different, as will their reflexes, posture, arms, legs and feet, hand-eye coordination, and so on. Similarly, people who spend eight hours a day in an office working at a typewriter or a visual display terminal will be biologically different from those who work on construction jobs. There is no way to sort the biological and social components that produce these differences. We cannot sort nature from nurture when we confront group differences in societies in which people from different races, classes, and sexes do not have equal access to resources and power, and therefore live in different environments. Sex-typed generalizations, such as that men are heavier, taller, or stronger than women, obscure the diversity among women and among men and the extensive overlaps between them… Most women and men fall within the same range of heights, weights, and strengths, three variables that depend a great deal on how we have grown up and live. We all know that first-generation Americans, on average, are taller than their immigrant parents and that men who do physical labor, on average, are stronger than male college professors. But we forget to look for the obvious reasons for differences when confronted with assertions like ‘Men are stronger than women.’ We should be asking: ‘Which men?’ and ‘What do they do?’ There may be biologically based average differences between women and men, but these are interwoven with a host of social differences from which we cannot disentangle them.”
Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’
-“I Wasn’t Born In The Wrong Body, I Was Born In The Wrong World” — Alok Vaid-Menon
-"As a nonbinary trans person specifically who is not interested in surgeries or any type of medical procedures, I don’t feel like I’m trapped in the wrong body. It's more that I’m trapped in other peoples perceptions of my body." Quinn from The Trans Generation
-“Perhaps this is the worst any closet does to us- it prevents us from hearing the words “I love you.” These were words my parents said to me, and I trusted the love, but not the “you”. The real me was hidden, so the “you” they loved was some other, better son” Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights by Kenji Yoshino
